In today’s world where everything is so fast-paced, easily available, and replaceable even feelings, emotions and dating has become one among them. There are numerous reasons why men might feel like giving up on dating once and for all.
Here are a few listed which might seem very relatable if you have been going through the same emotions as well!
1. More Bitter Experiences Than Sweet
Our brain is equipped to form opinions about certain things based on any incident related to it.
For example, you might have started hating rides because you once tried a rollercoaster and felt sick to your stomach.
The same applies to dating. You might have had a crush or several crushes who ended up either being straight up rude to you or rejected you.
If you keep experiencing the same horrible situation with every other person, you automatically associate relationships and dating with negative emotions and feel like giving up on dating and relationships.
2. Too Much Effort
Just think of your own experience, you started liking someone, you spent day and night talking with them telling them about your likes and dislikes.
You put in the effort to make them happy, you emotionally and physically invested in that relationship…
For some reason, you broke up. The thought of going through all this again, talking to someone new from the scratch, doing it all over again seems like too much work.
You also feel like what is the point of doing this again when you keep getting hurt one after the other making you feel like giving up on dating.
3. You Keep Choosing The Wrong People
Now let’s get one fact straight, there is no such thing as a “wrong girl” or “wrong guy” but there is a full possibility that the person you choose is completely wrong for you.
In this case, you might be reaching a bit too high than your own ability. It might be someone way more attractive than you or someone way more intellectually superior to you.
Due to this, there’s a constant hidden conflict where you feel like you have to keep going out of your way to make them happy just to keep them in your life!
They might treat you as if they are doing a huge favor simply by being with you which is very damaging to your self-worth making you feel like giving up on dating.
Maybe it is time to look for someone who matches you overall in your personality and tries to make an equal effort to make you happy as well.
Then you won’t constantly feel as if all the weight of the relationship is on your shoulders alone.
4. Only Focus Is On The Shallow
You keep saying that you want to date someone and build a relationship with them but you don’t realize you have to look for someone who thinks the same way and is on the same page as you.
Very often we find someone very attractive and instead of looking deeper into them, we settle for what we like based on the surface.
There is a possibility that you fail to have even a single successful date because you only look at the short-term. It could range from just an evening, a day, or a week.
You might want to reflect on what kind of person, temperament, and personality would actually be able to build a relationship with you.
5. Lack Of Clarity
You yourself aren’t sure about what exactly you want. You don’t know if you are looking for just a fling, a hookup or a committed relationship.
There are times we see men giving up on dating because they fail to communicate to the other person how they genuinely feel about the girl or how serious they might be for her.
If you fail to express that they might be thinking you are not serious about them the whole time!
You fail to make these terms clear to the other person as well leading to a lot of confusion and a sour ending of your terms with the person.
Maybe it is time to first sort out what it is that you are looking for based on your preference at the moment.
This will save you a lot of heartaches and prevent you from giving up on dating.
6. You Have Never Dated
This one sounds rather strange and bizarre but one of the major possibilities for a lot of men giving up on dating is they are tired of trying to date!
You like someone, you talk to them, try to impress them, you do everything you can yet you fail to have anyone interested in you. You are left wondering what am I doing wrong?
The answer is you are trying too hard. A lot of the time the best relationships and people happen when you are not even trying.
It is best to stay true to who you are, stop trying to be liked by someone so much. Rather, be confident in who you are. You will attract someone who genuinely likes you.
In such cases, rather than completely giving up on dating, all you need to do is stop trying too hard and just continue with your life while having an open eye for anyone who naturally comes along to you.
7. You Don’t Give People Enough Chances
One of the reasons why you might feel like giving up on dating is because you judge people too quickly and give up on any future with them.
A bit of patience and adjustment is required when you want to date someone. You have to accept that just like they have their own shortcomings you have your own, nobody’s perfect.
Instead of giving up on dating, you should give people more time to open up to you.
You need to let go of whoever you loved earlier and look at the new person with a fresh perspective otherwise you will keep comparing everyone to your past experiences.
If you feel frustrated and tired with love to the point you feel like giving up on dating, maybe it is time to take a short break but do not give up on dating completely!
Afterall, all these bitter experiences will teach you all the right things when the right one comes along. So hang in there!
