You know what is sex and you know what is masturbation, but do you know what is dry humping?
Do you remember that one scene from The Bad Teacher where Cameron Diaz was getting it from Justin Timberlake? You know, when she was still trying to win him over by creating a rift between him and Lucy Punch. She called her on her phone and started moaning to make her think he was cheating on her with Cameron. Well, here’s your answer – THAT wasn’t sex, it was Dry Humping.
Dry humping is when two partners or yourself are taking part in sexual activity – not quite! You are doing it for your stimulation or making sure that both you and your partner are getting sexually aroused, but there is no skin contact.
Yes! You are taking part in one of the many sex acts that don’t involve the removal of your clothes, skin contact, or any contact. You’re basically not getting in on the action – not quite. You are basically in positions wherein you would have penetrative sex – but you are fully clothed. There is NO penile-vaginal intercourse.
Just because you aren’t getting in on the action doesn’t mean it is a lesser form of sex – no! In fact, some people experience even greater joy during the dry hump than the penetrative sex. Some use humping as foreplay, which might lead to oral sex – with both the partners’ consent. Or even sex!
How does Dry Humping differ from Sex and Masturbation?
Humping, masturbation, and sex are all acts of getting the body to feel the sexual stimulation – with or without a partner. It is usually masturbation and in some cases humping that comes under the category of getting sexual stimulation alone.
Dry Humping and Sex – how different is it?
If you are taking part in sexual activity with your partner which involves your clothes being removed and having your penis enter your partner’s vagina or exchange bodily fluids – you are having sex.
It may be very enjoyable while having sex, but it is very risky. You are a risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases(STDs) and even pregnancy if there is an involvement of body fluids.
Whereas, in dry humping, there is NO risk of any diseases that are sexually transmitted OR pregnant. You and your partner enjoy the euphoria of having sex, without actually having sex.
To experience maximum clitoral enjoyment the females have to wear clothes as thin as possible. Wear something soft like satin or silk, so that your genitals feel maximum arousal when it is being ground on – and also to avoid chaffing.
Similarly, for pleasure in your penis, you have to wear clothes as thick as possible like jeans. You would wear thick clothes on top of your genitals so that you feel pleasure when you go for it. You would also want to maybe wear loose clothes. There’s a high chance of chaffing on your genitals or inner thighs.
Dry Humping and Masturbation – how different is it?
Masturbation is when you stimulate yourself with or without the help of sex toys. This usually becomes a taboo topic, and hence never properly discussed. Dry humping is also like masturbation since it can also be done privately.
You can position a pillow between your legs and align the clitoris along the edge of the pillow you are using; after aligning the pillow you must grind on the pillow in such a way that the grinding gives you uncontrollable pleasure.
This is what we call pillow humping. You can use something as simple as a pillow to get immense pleasure in your genitals to feel that happiness.
Similarly, for males, stack three pillows at the corner of your bed and start grinding your genitals on it. This is also a type of pillow humping. Bed humping is when you start using creative methods to experience a pleasure.
How to Level up your Dry Humping game (when you are not solo)
Now that you know WHAT is dry humping – or just humping in general, let’s see how good you actually are when the time comes to put those genitals to use?
Do remember this – dry humping happens when you and your partner are close but not close enough to have a relationship that involves skin contact. Or when you want to spice up your bedroom routine before sex. It also depends on what you and your partner want.
Therefore, don’t be afraid to be experimental in the bedroom when you are humping away at your partners. You need to realize that if what your partner is doing isn’t doing it for you – then guide them to show what they are doing right and what they’re doing wrong.
Don’t just be content with the grinding – make use of your hands, kiss the back of her neck or her earlobes. You want to turn on your partner, otherwise, it’ll be drier than the flour. Which, believe me, isn’t enjoyable at all – for both, actually.
If something’s not working – use a toy or try a different position, talk it out with your partner. See what your partner likes or dislikes, what turns them on or what their icks are. Be open to it, you do not want to miss this chance now, do you?
Let us help you with the potential positions that you be in during your dry humping session –
Missionary
This position is normally associated with penetrative sex, but don’t knock it off for dry humping.
Once you try it you will know! You will know that missionary isn’t just a boring, standard, basic sex position (which, I by the way, highly disagree with) but also a position that incites the greatest of pleasures for both the partners. Even when your humping.
This position can help you either enjoy the dry humping session or have it lead into sex. It depends on the number of clothes you have worn – too many clothes, then it means you are just ending the session with humping if the clothes are less then it might lead to oral sex or sex – with their consent of course.
This position has one partner lying on their back and spread their legs while the other partner is on the top while facing their partner. Remember while humping, friction is key.
Doggy
The Bad Teacher, same reference – they were dry humping in this position. If you haven’t seen the movie (btw you should, it’s great), the doggy can be done while sitting down and also while standing up. While sitting down, one of you has to be on all fours on a bed or a couch while the other grinds away at you from behind.
If you want to do it stood up, then one of you should be against the wall while the other is humping you from behind.
Spice it up!
Don’t just let it be all about humping, make out with your partner, kiss their neck, caress their inner, hold onto their waists when you are humping – doing this will definitely elevate both your and your partner’s mood.
Scissoring
This position is generally associated with lesbian sex. THAT is not true! Anything goes in dry humping – position-wise. You just need to know what you and your partner want.
During this position, both of you must interlock each other’s legs in such a way that both your genitals touch. Then grind away! As long as both of you know each other’s pleasure points, you will feel immense pleasure.
Cowgirl Variations
A position where the control can easily be changed by both the partners – either the bottom or the top. A personal favorite, if I do say so myself. Here, one of you lies down on their back, and the other plants themselves on top of their genitals. The constant to and fro motion is what creates pleasure. Either the one at the bottom can take control and do the motion, or vice versa.
Don’t just leave it at the constant motion, play around with your partner’s body – touch their breasts, hold their waists, etc., consensually.
All the positions mentioned here are gender-neutral, doesn’t matter if you are a girl-boy, boy-boy, girl-girl pairing. Sex positions do not discriminate. These are meant for all. You have to, though, when you are dry humping make sure to apply the trial and error methods. See what gets the two of you REALLY going.
How to Level up your solo humping?
When you are trying to have “fun” alone – masturbation isn’t the only option, dry humping is also an option for you. Some positions to try out when solo –
Pillow Smash
Take a pillow, put it between your legs or just put it in front of your crotch and rub against it. Use as much pressure as you like, do it until you feel your crotch getting the action.
Maybe, pile up a few pillows at the corner of your bed, and then ride it. Rub against it, move back and forth as hard or soft as you like, do what makes you feel great.
Armrest Rider
This is more suitable for owners of the vagina, but penis owners can also find a way to make it work. Find a chair with no sharp edges or an armrest of a couch, sit on it, and just – move to and fro or sideways, whatever suits your needs.
2 Mattresses Make the hole for you
If you have a bed of the right height, as in if you pile up two mattresses the partition should more or less be at your crotch height. The partition makes the perfect kind of a make-shift vagina for you to ride and hump. This method just has a single major problem – that is the size of the bed and the availability of 2 mattresses.
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Become a Kid
Buy a toy, and trust me that will be the greatest decision you will have made for yourself. You can not only use that toy to pleasure yourself, but it can also add that extra flair when needed during sex.
You can buy toys like a vibrator penis ring, it is what it says it is. You put the ring around your penis while it vibrates and while it does that, you can start your humping.
You can buy a male masturbator, which again cups around your penis and vibrates, and while it does that you can hump.
Similarly, for gay men, there are butt plugs that can vibrate. When you put it in your anus, it vibrates and while it does you can hump. You can say you can feel the pleasure of both the controlled and the controller.
There are toys for both men and women. Therefore, having a toy will help your body get the stimulation it craves, so will the other methods mentioned – but this is hassle-free.
Is an Orgasm Possible?
Dry humping is what comes in between masturbation and sex, it is what gives you a sure-shot pleasure. Therefore, orgasms are very much possible for each other. The ultimate goal is, after all, orgasm.
You might also want to increase your chances of lasting long, so dry humping is where you can actually make her orgasm quicker. Since, sometimes you can feel higher pleasure during dry humping sessions than the actual sex, use it as foreplay, increase the duration of your act.
If it’s a Sexual Act, surely there’s a Risk
Dry humping has no immediate risk of pregnancy OR STDs as long as the dry humping is ALL you do. If it’s chosen as an act of foreplay, which then leads to sex – then, there’s a risk of getting unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Since the exchange of bodily fluids is involved.
Dry humping may not have an immediate risk of pregnancy or contracting STDs, but there is still the risk of getting pregnant or contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Since you are humping, your discharge may seep through some of your clothes and enter your vagina. There are chances of you getting pregnant, though low but you should want to try and avoid it.
Similarly, before the dry humping session, you should have a talk with your partner about what they want and also if they have a history with STIs like genital herpes, HPV, or crabs.
There’s no such thing as too safe – wear your condoms and dental dams to avoid the risk at all costs. Always keep condoms on you, you never know what can happen at the spur of the moment. Your partner might change their decision of keeping it to dry humping and might want to go the distance.
Therefore, to not disappoint your partner as well as to not regret later, keep condoms on you at all times – even if it’s just dry humping you are doing. Better safe than sorry! Since an STI is a very real risk in dry humping, make sure you both know each other’s history with STIs.
Final Points to Remember for Dry humping
The first and foremost thing to remember at all times – CONSENT IS IMPORTANT. Always ask each other if what you want to do is okay with them. ALWAYS!
Always keep a condom with you, you don’t know when you might just get luckier. You might have agreed to dry humping but the stimulation might be so great, you might want to go for the end goal. You should take that opportunity and go for it – but unwanted pregnancy is not cool.
As long as you wear your clothes, there is no chance for pregnancy – but be careful of the discharge seeping through your pants. This is also important to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Dry humping becomes not “dry” if you aren’t careful. Skin-to-skin contact can easily cause STIs or even pregnancy. Make sure you take regularly checked up STIs and STDs.
