Good sex is all about knowing the body mechanics. And when it comes to gay sex, heterosexuals often wonder, how it actually works? Even gay men who want to start intimate physical relationships with their partners want to know which sexual positions are possible.
Well, gay partners do have sex and it’s not much different than how heterosexuals do it. Doggy-style, missionary, cowboy and reverse cowboy sex, and many other sex positions are possible even for gay couples. As both the partners are penis-owners, they mostly have to perform anal penetration to experience physical stimulation.
Terminology
Before we start getting down and dirty, let’s make sure we understand all the important terms. The following terms describe the roles gay couples play:
- Tops: The dominant partners who prefer being in charge of the activity and preferably penetrates their significant other.
- Bottoms: The submissive partners who prefer yielding control and preferably are the ones penetrated by their mate.
- Power bottoms: The bottoms who prefer to remain in charge of the action with the way they move their body.
- Versatiles/ Switches: The partner who wants to experience both the sides of sexual fun, sometimes as the top and sometimes as the bottom.
- Sides: The partner who prefers oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation, or other foreplay with their partners. They don’t prefer penetration.
Every person is different and so regardless of the roles and definitions, the key to great sex is simply going with the flow.
Ground rules
Rules are required even when one only seeks pleasure. As helpful as the rules are, they are also fun. Some rules to keep in mind beforehand are:
- Consent is the most important rule of sex. Both the partners should clearly provide consent before engaging in any sexual activity.
- Safe sex is another important rule. Using condoms and plenty of water-based lubes is a must and so is getting tested for HIV or STIs regularly.
- Anal sex can be messy, so bottoms should wash themselves out with an enema or simply use soap and water. Tops should keep in mind that things might get dirty down there, but it is not that big of a deal.
- Use of proper brand lube and in sufficient quantity to make the overall process easier is also important.
Best Gay Sex Positions
Okay, let’s dig into the best gay sex positions there are and how to perform them with ease. Also, some tips are added to better understand and perform particular sex positions.
1. Missionary
The Missionary position is fun for gay couples. It can be as passionate as you want it to be especially for those who enjoy eye contact and kissing.
In this position, the bottom partner lay on the bed on their back. The bottom has to position their legs in such a way that the top can easily penetrate inside the bottom’s anal canal. The bottom partner will have to tilt more upwards than the usual position to get easy and better penetration, and it is best if the bottom places their legs on the top’s shoulders.
Tip: A pillow can be used to adjust the height of the bottom’s pelvis.
Things to note:
- This position is more top dominant as the top has control over the speed and depth of the penetration.
- As, both the partners are face-to-face, communication increases, and intimacy is elevated.
- The pelvic angle should be adjusted to provide a more direct entry into the anal canal. Once penetration is achieved, the bottom should adjust the height of the legs up or down, as pleasurable as the penetration feels.
- The bottom can also pleasure themselves down there, during the act.
2. Cowboy
This gay sex position is one of the best positions as it offers control to the passive partner. This allows the passive partner to adjust to whatever speed they feel is better.
In this position, The top lies on his back on any flat surface like a bed. The bottom has to sit on top of them such that they both are facing each other. The bottom is in total control here, he can change the speed or depth of penetration as per his preference.
Variations can be added further to this so that the top can also involve in a more active role and control the penetration. The top moving the pelvis forward and backward can also help achieve different sensations for both of them.
Things to note:
- The bottom is in control in this position because they control the speed.
- If the top wants to experience submissive or the bottom wants to experience dominance then this position should be preferred.
- One of the downsides of this position is that the bottom has to act more actively. Also, they have to come out of their comfort zone to act dominant.
- The top has to relinquish some control and has to act submissive for this position.
- A possible concern is, that if not performed properly, the bottom might injure their penis.
3. Reverse cowboy
One other position that gay men love is Reverse cowboy. Similar to the traditional cowboy position, the bottom is lying on the back, while the top sits on the bottom. But the twist here is that the top has to face in the direction away to that of the bottom.
Reverse cowboy might be a mixed bag. If the bottom is more flexible and advanced, they should change the position of the top by laying them back on the bottom’s chest. This makes it easier to grab the legs of the top and take control of thrusting.
Also as touch is increased, the sensation is also felt more.
Things to note:
- As penis shape differ, some penis might be curved or straight. It can be difficult to achieve prostate stimulation in this position if the angulation of the penis is opposite to that of the prostate.
- It might result in posterior pelvic pain to the bottom as thrusting all the time might feel like hitting a wall with the penis.
- The bottom can arch their back and adjust to make sure it hit the sweet spots.
- Communication and reading visual clues might be difficult as there is minimal to no eye contact.
4. Doggy Style
This is one of the best gay sex positions, as it is ideal for good and hard gay anal sex. Doggy style provides easy angulation for easy and deeper penetrations.
To perform Doggy style, the bottom has to lie on all their fours in a way so that the back faces the top. After the bottom adjusts to his position, the top sits behind and performs anal sex from behind. A variation can be to pull the bottom towards the top by hips for deeper penetration.
In this position also pillow can be used to adjust the height for a better entry.
Things to note:
- In doggy style, the top is in full control and can adjust the depth and speed of thrusting. The bottom enjoys this more being submissive.
- Height and place might affect the entry angulation. The top can be thrusting in any direction depending on where the bottom is
- .The penetration hits deeper and harder which might be good or bad for some gay men.
- The top has to work out more as it depends on his position. And as the bottom is not able to visualize cues and communication, they might develop trauma.
5. Spooning
This gay sex position is also called side by side and it offers skin-to-skin contact. The stimulation is greater as the top has direct access to the bottom’s chest, nipples, and penis.
Both partners have to lay on their side and the top is outside as the big spoon and he penetrates the bottom from behind.
The active partner must place one of the arms under the pillow to prevent a sleeping arm.
Things to note:
- Both the guys need to adjust the pelvic position to minimize the discomfort and maximize the intensity.
- The top’s penis curvature plays an important role and it might be difficult for the top depending on the length.
- There can be less intimacy as the bottom lies facing the other direction to the top.
- Lube should be applied carefully as you are lying on the sheets, you have a very good chance of staining them.
6. The Bodyguard
Also called Standing, this sexual position is a variation to doggy style. Sometimes the guys want to do it standing as it feels more energetic and gives a much greater range of motion.
The bottom is standing in any position that helps the entry of the top’s penis. The top partner has to penetrate while the bottom positions accordingly. The bottom’s posture can be changed for more stability as they can hold onto a wall or a table.
Things to note:
- This position also might be tough due to height differences between the parties involved.
- Verbal communication is key as both parties don’t face each other.
- As this position requires not much space, it is great for places where you cannot lie down like showers and outdoor areas.
- The top has full control as like with doggy style.
7. Pirates’ Bounty
The name Pirates’ bounty might sound hard and complicated, but actually, it is a must-have of all the gay sex positions. This provides deeper penetration and a more intimate experience.
In this position, the bottom lies on his back. The gist is in the difference in the position of the bottom’s legs. The further up and back the top will push the bottom’s leg, the deeper the top guy can thrust. This position also allows touching and kissing.
Things to note:
- The top has more control as this is similar to the missionary gay sex position.
- The communication is great and intimacy is higher as both the partners face each other.
- The bottom should be experienced as this sexual position needs the flexibility of one of the bottom’s legs.
- The pelvic may become off-balanced as the bottom is lifting only one of their legs, and the top could hit the sidewall of the pelvis.
8. Suspended Congress
Sounds like one of the funny gay sex positions. This position is all about one partner’s strength and stamina. It is very adventurous but might be challenging. And this is one of those no bed required positions.
The top guy has to be standing straight. They have to pick up the bottom facing each other and enters the bottom while holding their thighs to support the bottom’s hips. Standing free might be uncomfortable, so they could lean against something sturdy. No gym class is required for today.
Things to note:
- The top should be experienced as he should be able to understand the bottom’s pelvic angles and adjust thrusting accordingly.
- The whole of the bottom’s weight is to be carried by the top which may not be feasible for all men.
- If there is an imbalance in the angle, the top is at the risk of getting hurt in the back or might break his penis.
9. Arch
Arch is also one of the derived positions. It is a variation of the cowboy, but for more experienced bottoms.
The top will lie on the bed, and the top will sit on top of the bottom’s body. But this time the legs are planted on the bed beside the top. The bottom needs to lean back, creating an obtuse angle between them both. If the natural curvature of the top’s penis is up, it’ll be a direct hit on the prostate creating immense pleasure.
Things to note:
- Slow thrusting is the key here as the penis could break at greater speed.
- The limitations of the bottom’s pelvic angle might be uncomfortable for the top.
- Till the right spot is found, maneuvers should be controlled and gradual.
- For both parties, the pleasure might be hard to seek if the top’s penis is rigid or curved.
10. Bumper cars
One of the advanced yet sexy positions is bumper cars. It is only recommended if both men are flexible and experienced. it requires coordination to pull it off smoothly.
The bottom needs to lie on his stomach on all fours. The top will also face downwards but with the head on the opposite side than that of the bottoms. The top is penetrating from the other way around. You can see that it’s related to doggy style in a reverse kind of way. In this position, even the top do not have more control and stimulation.
Things to note:
- Controlled and slow thrust is the key, as the position is a bit tricky.
- If performed aggressively, the penis can break and the bottom’s prostate can also be damaged due to entry at the wrong angle. This can prove to be dangerous for both.
- The prostate can be stimulated very well by this one, but only if done perfectly.
- There is no face reading so verbal communication is a must as the position is already very advanced.
11. Superman
Superman is also called I can fly. In this, the active partner sits on a chair and keeps the body elongated. The other partner mounts away from the active balancing himself.
Things to note:
- The passive member leans backward and the active one grasps his wrist to maintain balance. And the passive member lifts his legs trying to fly like in the air, thrusting backward as the other controls the rhythm while holding tightly the arms.
- Another variation is to let the passive word so that the other one can grasp his wrist. The passive one now lifts the legs like flying in the air guy can himself mouton the penis and leans forward while the active one controls the rhythm.
Other gay sex positions can be performed by greatly advanced couples like greasy vine sparkler and the unicorn.
The Takeaway
All the gay sex positions discussed above are doable, and if performed correctly can provide the sensation at a higher scale. Sex is fun and all but one must remember to keep asking the partner if they agree to your fantasy.
It all looks sexy and manageable in pictures and stories. But the stories don’t require experienced men. Also, pleasure can be free of sexual intercourse. Foreplay and other types of play are also ways to get intimate. If anal sex isn’t your partner’s take, then the advice is to go ahead with oral sex positions like 69.
The 69 position is easy to perform and is pleasurable. the one above has to get onto the bottom and serve each other’s penises orally. One can spread the pelvis to increase access and stimulation.
If you are of similar in height you both can lay side by side, so that you face each other’s crotch. And if heights differ, the taller guy can make a V sign. One more way is to get in the push-up position and so that the mouths and the crotch line up, so you can enjoy a bit of mouth.
